I've always thought -- If you're going to have a face between your legs, at least make it a pretty one.
Sexual attraction is imperative. However, sexual attraction and attraction on its own can hold different meanings.
I've consistently been 'attracted' to people with depth.
This may include, (although it's a non-exhaustive list) :
People with anxiety issues, so they know what it's like to not diminish someone else's thoughts into the far future and just wanting to be ready for what comes.
People who know what rejection is like, just so that they are sensitive to people who are weak or have less.
People who know what hard work really means, so even if one day they hit rock bottom financially, they have it in them to start from scratch and recreate the empire.
People, who developed a good sense of humor as a defence mechanism, or simply to compensate for not having the best looks. Because who doesn't enjoy a good banter?
People who, and this is a new addition-- are kind to strangers like waiters or spares some change to a beggar, smiles at who they meet and speaks with tact.
People who think it is important to speak well, even when it comes to text. Because this opens a portal to a deeper level of communication when you can articulate exactly what you feel or are thinking, and communication resonates more freely.
People who are loyal so they stand by you when things are difficult, not hop on to the next easiest thing.
Now, if I found some of these in a person, this would be it. Right? um. I don't know.
Can these traits outweigh a pretty face with no substance? I don't know.
Can I live with someone who has most of these but not my idea of what a physically attractive face is like? Again, I don't even know.
At which point does sexual attraction come in? Does it come in when you look at someone's face first, then your mind begins to conjure these traits within them? Or do you see these traits and gradually this physically unattractive person becomes sexually attractive? ...you got it. I don't know.
I mean, I know this is a relatively shallow issue to discuss because I know of times when people did not have the luxury of being in love/sexually attracted. This was also a time when parents traded/united their children like cattle to create the best potential outcome for their families in terms of wealth, ties and status.
I guess it all boils down to what is important to a person. What is it that you need from another human being that you cannot already provide yourself? And before you even demand this from another person, are you first, what that person hopes you to be?
My current view is that it's simply illogical to have the best of both worlds. I think that it defeats logic for a person to be both good looking (in the traditional sense) and have the kind of... depth I exemplified. Because the world is generally kinder to those with a pretty face, so they would never have to know what a day is like in the world of people who aren't like them. Naturally their personalities will differ because they see the world through a different lens. Naturally the (much nicer) events which shape them differ. Naturally, the crowd they mix with will differ, so the way they interact with people differs.
I have this feeling that the only compatible person for me that I can think of right now is someone who knows what it's like to have been on both ends of the social spectrum and possibly be flexible on the gender scale too. So in other words, this means that I will die alone.
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Sexual attraction is imperative. However, sexual attraction and attraction on its own can hold different meanings.
I've consistently been 'attracted' to people with depth.
This may include, (although it's a non-exhaustive list) :
People with anxiety issues, so they know what it's like to not diminish someone else's thoughts into the far future and just wanting to be ready for what comes.
People who know what rejection is like, just so that they are sensitive to people who are weak or have less.
People who know what hard work really means, so even if one day they hit rock bottom financially, they have it in them to start from scratch and recreate the empire.
People, who developed a good sense of humor as a defence mechanism, or simply to compensate for not having the best looks. Because who doesn't enjoy a good banter?
People who, and this is a new addition-- are kind to strangers like waiters or spares some change to a beggar, smiles at who they meet and speaks with tact.
People who think it is important to speak well, even when it comes to text. Because this opens a portal to a deeper level of communication when you can articulate exactly what you feel or are thinking, and communication resonates more freely.
People who are loyal so they stand by you when things are difficult, not hop on to the next easiest thing.
Now, if I found some of these in a person, this would be it. Right? um. I don't know.
Can these traits outweigh a pretty face with no substance? I don't know.
Can I live with someone who has most of these but not my idea of what a physically attractive face is like? Again, I don't even know.
At which point does sexual attraction come in? Does it come in when you look at someone's face first, then your mind begins to conjure these traits within them? Or do you see these traits and gradually this physically unattractive person becomes sexually attractive? ...you got it. I don't know.
I mean, I know this is a relatively shallow issue to discuss because I know of times when people did not have the luxury of being in love/sexually attracted. This was also a time when parents traded/united their children like cattle to create the best potential outcome for their families in terms of wealth, ties and status.
I guess it all boils down to what is important to a person. What is it that you need from another human being that you cannot already provide yourself? And before you even demand this from another person, are you first, what that person hopes you to be?
My current view is that it's simply illogical to have the best of both worlds. I think that it defeats logic for a person to be both good looking (in the traditional sense) and have the kind of... depth I exemplified. Because the world is generally kinder to those with a pretty face, so they would never have to know what a day is like in the world of people who aren't like them. Naturally their personalities will differ because they see the world through a different lens. Naturally the (much nicer) events which shape them differ. Naturally, the crowd they mix with will differ, so the way they interact with people differs.
I have this feeling that the only compatible person for me that I can think of right now is someone who knows what it's like to have been on both ends of the social spectrum and possibly be flexible on the gender scale too. So in other words, this means that I will die alone.
Sekian terima kasih.